How we view our bodies takes a huge toll in how we live our lives, even in regards to sex. We feel far more comfortable with flab because it's less threatening.' A he-man's discipline highlights our lack of it, making us feel even more acutely self-conscious of our own body flaws than usual. Says Cox, 'Seventy-four percent of women in the survey said they'd feel self-conscious taking their clothes off in front of a perfectly toned man. I beg to differ, but as one without any schooling in the way of being a sexpert, I'll keep my thoughts on how women might just prefer humor and substance, as opposed to chiseled abs, to myself. not so perfect? According to sexpert Tracey Cox, women are scared that they can't live up to the perfect abs of a perfect man, so we go for the chubby guys instead. But why is this the case? Why is it that when it comes to the real world, the one we want to be with is, well.